Hiding or detaching temporarily from emotional pain is a healthy skill. If you have something hurtful happen, but you need to “get your act together” in order to work, or watch children, then knowing you can do that rather than being besieged by your pain, reflects emotional competence. However, people with Perfectly Hidden Depression have honed this skill to perfection, and rarely allow themselves to reveal their own sadness, disappointment, or grief.  They wall off a painful past and strive to create a persona of happiness and personal success.

What are the causes or contexts that lead to this strategy? In today’s podcast, Dr. Margaret offers nine possibilities, many being rooted in childhood, and others being tied to culture, gender and family belief systems. If you find yourself in her words, you might want to listen to her other podcasts on PHD (Episode 003, 004, 021, and 031).

Her response to a listener email today is about how you build self-esteem in the workplace.

Important links for today’s broadcast:

An article on the vast amount of cultural difference between emotional latitudes and expression.

Audible version of Sheryl Sandberg’s book: Lean In



You can hear more about depression and many other topics by listening to Dr. Margaret’s podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to this website and receive her weekly blog posts and podcasts, as well as  free downloadable ebook, “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy.”!

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression will be arriving November 1, 2019! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. More to come.