009 SelfWork: Healing From Shame

Shame can be a tremendously destructive force in our lives.

This podcast will help you learn how to identify shame in yourself, and gives specific suggestions on how to work through it. Shame is usually present in the form of self-loathing or constant thoughts about yourself that are negative or make you feel as if you’re not worthy. And it keeps you living in the past, not viewing yourself as worthy of connection with others.

We’ll talk about the differences between shame and guilt, using Dr. Brene Brown‘s research on shame as inspiration.

The sources of shame are numerous, and include abuse of any kind, neglect, criticism and judgement from others, comparison with others, shameful self-dialogue, perfectionism, procrastination and regret. We’ll talk about each , and how it can specifically lead to shame.

Is shame useful? Is it the same as a “good conscience?” If you struggle with paralyzing shame, this podcast will give you some answers to these and other questions.

Here’s a quote: “You can call it forgiving yourself. You can use faith in a higher Being to help you let it go. You can acknowledge you are human. You can see yourself with compassion. Tell yourself what you would tell your best friend. Realize you were learning something vital. You can do things to try to atone, things that will help you move past it.”

Letting go of shame means moving out of the past, and into the present. It means believing in yourself, and changing your choices. Dr. Margaret offers some very personal comments about her own struggle with shame.

Dr. Margaret also answers a listener question on the use of antidepressants with depression.

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Here are links to the books I mentioned in the podcast.

https://www.amazon.com/Breaking-Patterns-Depression-Michael-Yapko/dp/0385483708

Classic: https://www.amazon.com/Feeling-Good-Handbook-David-Burns/dp/0452281326

https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419

YouTube videos of John Bradshaw: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/98399.Healing_the_Shame_that_Binds_You

 

You can hear more about mental health and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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