5 Steps To Avoid The Anxiety Of Comparing Yourself To Others

5 Steps to Avoid the Anxiety of Comparing Yourself To Others

I am going to tell you a true story. Might only happen in a therapy practice in a small town. I had a female patient. A mom. Had her kids in a local private school. She had come in to work on abuse from her past. What she hated about herself was how she worked […]

How Did “Feeling Your Age” Become A Bad Thing?

Relish today

“Mom I can’t believe you’re 60.” That’s all my son said. We didn’t really talk about it further. I just smiled. We moved onto football or some other very important subject. Interestingly enough, I was called “old lady” in a reader response to a social media comment I made the other day. The rest of […]

5 Commitments To Yourself If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist

5 Commitments To Yourself If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist

Let’s talk about narcissism. A recent article in the Huffington Post went viral when the author, Lindsey Ellison, described how to engage with a “narcissist” after divorce. Basically to disengage. Detach. Stick to basic information if you have to have contact. Hundreds of comments suggest that many people are familiar with this dynamic. What is […]

How To Make Your New Years Resolution Stick

Accept.  And grow into more of the person you want to be.

People are talking about New Year’s resolutions. We search for a renewed energy. A determination to lick what it is that keeps us unhappy. We try for a couple of weeks.  Make efforts to modify our behavior.  Read a self-help book. Search on-line experts for advice. Maybe you are successful. Maybe this is the time […]

5 Frank Tips For Enjoying Your Family This Holiday

5 Frank Tips For Enjoying Your Family This Holiday Dr. Margaret Rutherford

It’s the weekend before Christmas. The last days of Hanukkah. I have listened these past weeks how patients are preparing for the holiday.  Everything from looking forward to it, to fearing pure chaos, to expecting complete authoritarian rule. Relatives fighting one another, swearing they won’t come if so-and-so is there. Old wounds, never resolved, that […]